Thursday, March 10, 2011

Winning....really????

Ok, so who has had their fill of celebrity train wrecks? Raise your hands! First Paris, then Brittany and Lindsay.  Now the latest to get all of this ridiculous attention.....Charlie Sheen.
I really dont understand why this is such a surprise because he has been a mess for a while.  I guess the media didn't find him to be enough of mess until he was making 1.2 million per episode on his hit show "Two and a half men." Charlie has quite a record which includes: 1990-shooting his then girlfriend Kelly Preston in her apartment. In 1995 he was in court for being a "customer" of Madame Heidi Fleiss.... 1998, he overdosed on cocaine.  His dad, Martin Sheen gave a tearful report at the Los Robles Medical Center.  He said "This is not an easy moment in our lives, but it's a necessary one. Our hope is that he (Charlie) will accept recovery and be fine."

Well... Charlie didn't recover. Now we hear more reports about antics with hookers, hotels, drugs and booze.  He never got the help and things got worse.  While his show was skyrocketing to number one (paying him one of the highest salaries on any TV actor) Charlie was spiraling out of control and eventually jeopardizing the production of the show.  We all know the end of this story....Charlie bad mouths his boss Chuck Lorre....and eventually he is fired from the show.  Is it just me or have we seen this one before??? McKenzie Phillips and her firing from the 70's sitcom "One day at a time." The difference: McKenzie saw her disease (and yes folks, Charlie HAS a disease) and got treatment.  She didn't fix it all at once, but she is finally clean and sober.

I was just on facebook and a friend posted a link to Dr Drew (Celebrity Rehab) Pinsky's interview on CNN.  He said that Charlie suffered from something called "Hypo-mania."  I had never heard of this, so I went to counsellingresource.com.  "Hyper-mania" is:

A.  A distinct period of persistently elevated, expansive, or irritable mood, lasting throughout at least 4 days, that is clearly different from the usual non-depressed mood.
B.  During the period of mood disturbance, three (or more) of the following symptoms have persisted (four if the mood is only irritable) and have been present to a significant degree: 

  • inflated self-esteem or grandiosity 
  • decreased need for sleep (e.g., feels rested after only 3 hours of sleep) 
  • more talkative than usual or pressure to keep talking 
  • flight of ideas, or subjective experience that thoughts are racing 
  • distractibility (i.e., attention too easily drawn to unimportant or irrelevant external stimuli) 
  • increase in goal-directed activity (either socially, at work or school, or sexually) or psychomotor agitation 
  • excessive involvement in pleasurable activities that have a high potential for painful consequences (e.g., engaging in unrestrained buying sprees, sexual indiscretions, or foolish business investments) 

Ok, so maybe this does sound like Charlie, but I don't think so.  Charlie, to me, sounds like you basic person doing massive amounts of drugs and drinking lots of alcohol.  I grew up with an uncle who acted this erratic when he was: Stoned or Drunk.  We couldn't stop him no matter what our family did.  He died at 52 from a massive coronary.....his heart was 3 times bigger than it should've been....from too many years of drugs and alcohol.  Nice huh?

Dr. Drew also mentioned how he had a barrage of "fans" that we cheering him on (you can see them in his videos on his blog.) Oh course those people are there.  They are there for the free drugs and booze...plus maybe they are hoping to ride on the "Sheen coattails of fame." It is really sad if that is what they are doing.  I can tell you one thing...  if Charlie continues down this road, eventually he WILL run out of money and once he does......those people will be gone.

I feel really bad for Charlie.  He is not to be celebrated.  TV is doing him NO favors by interviewing him....this just fuels him into thinking that all of this air time is another way he is "winning." We all know the media....today's "big news" is tomorrows "old story." They will tire of him, something new will grab the media's attention and Charlie will be forgotten.

Will he then be winning????

Charlie....you need help.  All I hear when I listen to you is "me, me , me." and "everyone else is wrong." Those are true signs of an addict.  You chose drugs and booze over your family, your co-workers and you fans.  What about them? The reason you are a star is BECAUSE of fans, family....and people like Chuck Lorre, who gave you more chances to get it right.

YOU chose to mess it up and chose the addiction over life.

I hope someday you will get it right.  All we can do now is watch.

Thursday, January 6, 2011

The Dating Game


It has been over a year since I have been separated from my ex and eight months since my divorce.  I have been concentrating on this new phase of my life and on the needs of my son, who now lives with me full time.  Think of it like "The courtship of Eddie's father" (without the Asian maid.  Wow, I just dated myself with that remark.  Those under 35 are saying "The courtship of who?")

So with all of this and the business of life in general, I haven't been thinking about dating anyone.  I really don't give it much thought, but I do have to admit that I am lonely without a female presence in my life.  Just for kicks I joined a couple of "dating sites" to see what I might find there.  Since my cash flow and mind set situation isn't quite ready for the upscale of an Eharmony/Match.com site, I decided to google FREE dating sites.

I wasn't sure what I would be in for, but it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. Yes, there were a few questionable ones, but I did find three that I decided I would frequent from time to time. 


First was Christian Mingle: www.christianmingle.com. Since I am a christian, I thought this would be a good place to start.  A safe site (I hoped) with other like minded christians looking for a soul mate (no pun intended.) I would call this site the Neiman-Marcus of free dating sites.  The woman on there seem nice enough, but one major flaw.  Not a lot of women from my area. A lot of them were from down south.  The other issue I had was that you can't email anyone you like unless you "upgrade." That costs money...so much for a "Free" dating site.  I did like the "shuttle photo" feature which allowed me to see photos of woman that I might be interested in.  They also had a "viewed me" section that allowed me to see who might be interested in my, but once again, most were down south so it did me no good.


Next I found OK Cupid (www.okcupid.com) ...cute name for a dating site. This site was the JC Penney of free dating sites.  The good thing was it did have a lot of local ladies on it.  They had a bunch of different tabs to click on to see who was out there and who you might match with.  It also had compatibility tabs with questions you could answer and see how the person you choose answered as well.  I thought this was good way to get a more meaningful match before emailing someone and not knowing what their likes and dislikes were.  The main drawback again, to email anyone you had to upgrade.  It always kills me when a sites boast that it's free only to have the next line be: "and if you upgrade you get all these features....."

And last but certainly is: Plenty of Fish (www.plentyoffish.com) This site due its simplified ease of this site, I will call this the Walmart of dating sites (there is nothing wrong with Walmart....I shop there all the time. I believe in the motto "Save money, live better.") This site is ACTUALLY free! There are bios and pictures "who viewed me" section, but unfortunately I am finding that I am seeing the same people over and over again. 
That brings me to my final point....if you want to meet a nice person, there are certain rules that I think need to be followed in order to make this happen.

1) Please be honest about yourself.  What do you like, want and are looking for.  A generic "I like men who can be themselves" isn't really telling me anything.  I would rather have you tell me what bugs you in a man. Then I will know whether to pursue you based on whether I have that qualities you desire of annoyances you despise.

2) Please post a picture.  I know it sounds shallow, but you have to at least be interested in the looks of a person before you will click onto their info and learn more.  I am bald and some woman want a man with lots of hair.  That's ok, but what would not be ok is if I posted a picture of me when I HAD hair.  Also, please make sure your picture is a recent one, not one for 10-15 years ago...again, lets play fair.

And finally (3) If you dont have a picture or any information about you on your bio page, please don't tell me you want to "get to know me" and "please email you." I have NO idea who you are.  In this day and age of internet crime I am not going to put myself out there not knowing who you are, what you look like or what your about. That is not smart.

Thank you for you attention and Happy Dating.....

Here are some classic clips from the TV show The Dating Game.  See if you recognize some of these past "bachelors."


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HkrY2XPF35Q
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ALZz3vlIZiU

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rCH3w_LnmHE
 






















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